Reading Zainab on various forums is always like a treat. Whether it’s her own cricket blog or Karachi metblog or now in Spider mag or Dawn, she has always impressed me with her writings.

Today I came to know about her response to a news report via Facebook  in which it was claimed that common rooms have been hijacked by Burqa clad women at KU. I don’t want to spoil her response by adding my own thoughts. She has said it way better than any one else could response to that crackpot reporder who would be another so called product of enlightenment and moderaton. The piece I loved more is:

Writing about ‘burqa brigades taking over’ any particular place on university campuses is much more juicy and catchy a subject than writing about the habitual intimidating and threatening attitude of male student union members. After all, in this day an age of the war on terror, it is fashionable for journalists to go on a tirade against anything that is even remotely associated with religion or dare I say extremism.

As I always say that extremism by left wing is not less pathetic than right wing of Pakistan. Criticising Zia in Pakistan is as hot as crticizing Sarah Palin in US. Ironically Zia is the source of earning for people like him who blame Zia if their kids pee in pants.

Today Islamophobia exists more in Muslim states than any non-Muslim country. A muslim man who wants to keep beard,keeps shalwar above ankle will be crticized more in Pakistan than any Western country. Being a Hijabi woman means you have enough courage to tolerate hurting words by strangers like that ignorant reporter as well as family.Interestring part is that most of critiques are those who don’t like to miss any chance to preach freedom of expression and open-mindness. Yeah right!

Well done little sis! you have written an excellent pieace or as I replied her on facebook,she bowled an awesome yorker.

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After Oct’05 disaster, Pakistan faces another earthquake. Strog earthquake hit Balochistan which resulted killing of hundreds of people. Last year Balochistan suffered due to heavy flood.

Things are not as good financially as they were in Oct 2005 but hopes are hight and Insha Allah with help of Pakistanis this disaster would be overcome. I can just hope all political parties, Lawyers,Army guys quit their personal differences for a moment and get ready to help victims. May Allah help us all and make us able to help others.Ameen

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This ghazal is for Ibrahim bhai who have memorized it for some weird reason. In reality this classic tells the whole tradegy of Mughal era in India. The way zafar has described it in few lines, it can’t be described in many history books.

The biggest tragedy is that we muslims have still not gotrid of Mughal era yet. You know what I mean.

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having confidence, a  leased car/home,persuing career of choice then all men MUST remain single. What do ya say?

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The place where I work we start work with 5-10 mins Taleem(Islamic address) early in the morning before we start our regular work. After that a colleague perform Dua. Though its a bit lengthy and contains different duas like Rabbana Ataina etc but one of the Dua touched my heart when he recited first time infront of me.  I requested him to get me the copy of that Mansoon Dua so that I can memorize it and share with others as well. Thankfully he got a scan copy with Urdu translation.

The part which touched me in which it’s prayed Allah to make me smaller in HIS(SWT) eyes and glorious infront of common men.  This is such a beautiful prayer, imagine if we really start praying this with heart then so many problems could solve. By making smaller infront of Allah means being humble thus killing Nafs. By asking to make me glorious means give a respectable life in this temporary world hence save with the the hurting words usually said by others since people in this world worship only “Big” names.

May Allah guide us All-Ameen

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Few days back I asked my friends about Allah’s Raza i:e Will of Allah.  This is what I asked them:

I do Understand “Raza”[will] of Allah  that it’s all about ‘Obeying what he says. Am I right? If that is then why we Muslims even practised one get panic and worried if something goes against them? I don’t rememebr the exact aya but Allah complained in Quran that you[We muslims] come to me when needed[in trouble time] otherwise not.

So why our mind[or heart] don’t get agreed to accept it blindly what He wanted. Even I see ppl who practise Salat 5 times and others often get panic. Why is like that? Does this mean one has to be a “WALI” to accept everything comes from Allah.

I would add further below:

I don’t understand why submission to Allah is difficult for us while we get ready to submit ourselves for our lover(Aashiq) who is usually a human being? In reality we don’t submit to that person either. Usually we make big claims but when we are tested, all of claims blow in air within few seconds. We complain that things going wrong. Irony is that I have seen people doing Istkhara or asking for Istkhara yet not sure about future. It’s rather insult of Allah. Either we should not seek HIS opinion and do what he feels or just trust in what does he want. Why is so uncertainity in us? Why are we so fragile? Can someone explain me?

I wonder whether we are really eligible to seek God’s love? Farhad dug milk canal for his lover, as we ready in books. Farhad could get Allah if he would have loved even 20% of what he had for Shireen.

Tariq Bhai gave following answer to my questions present in italic:

 Raza-bil-Qaza (remaining okay with the will and order of the Almighty) is actually the highest level that could be gained in spirituality. Hazrat Thanvi RA was once asked by one of his follower ‘Is there a level above Ikhlaas as well?’ [Ikhlaas is a state where men do everything for the Almighty alone]. He informed in affirmative and said ‘Raza Bil Qaza’. 

So the answer to your question in the last line is yes. While being a true wali will make the person totally agreeable on all that happens to him, those of us who have part of this good trait (taaluq maAllah and connection with the Creator), will sometime exhibit RBQ and sometimes will forgot this and violate RBQ.

Needless to say, if RBQ gets practiced, a lot of peace will take place in the society.

And Allah knows the best.

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This post of mine might surprise many readers who are not used to read such posts by me. Usually I prefer NOT to discuss my personal life with rest of the world. Even with fake aliases like many others people do in blog world. I know no one actually cares whether you ate Biryani on sunday or you had a chat with your friend online for some movie. Anyways, sometimes I do like to share things which are related to me only. Few days  back someone in my family doubt about my concept of friendship when I said that for me everyone on my messenger list is a friend. Today I was just thinking about my friends I have came across so far. I thought to share my point of view about friendshipand friends. Have fun :>

Friendship has different meanings for everyone. For some people it’s all about “using” others for their own work and later kick them out. For some fiends would be larger than life. For me friendship is something which exist in every relation rather in particular form. I wish and pray that I become enough eligible that Allah makes me His friend. No doubt Allah is my top closed friends because friend is someone who knows your feelings even you don’t say yourself. You agree or not but you can’t find any one who knows each and everything about you. Allah said Himself in Quran.

Your ally is none but Allah and [therefore] His Messenger and those who have believed - those who establish prayer and give zakah, and they bow [in worship].  (Quran 5:55)

And if Allah makes someone friend then He or she doesn’t need anyone since Allah comes out as a true and genuine friend who is ready to safe His friend even when he’s not aware about trouble .

Allah is the ally of those who believe. He brings them out from darknesses into the light(Quran 2:257)

Anyways, I am not one who could be a friend of Allah, I have no such quality at all though I pray and wish to be one of them.

I will not say I found many people around who I call closed friends but I was lucky enough that there are few who have been kind since beginning that they are with me even in rainy days. They don’t demand me anythings yet ready to listen me atleast. It’s also my luck that I got good peers in school,college and university. Even I got good colleagues in my entire career and I am in touch with most of them. If I am not then it’s only that me and they are busy in their life schedule.

Friendship means love ,care and respect and you can earn it from anyone. Be it your parents, your siblings or your spouse. I personally believe that you don’t need some dedicated person who should be labeled as a friend. Anyone who cares you and listen you should be considered a friend. In today’s selfish world when people don’t even get time for their blood relatives , it’s like blessings that you find people around you who do consider you something or ready to help you.

Let me tell you one thing, I personally think I am not a good friend fr others, I am a good listener and do try to help my friens but still I do feel I am not good at friendship. I feel that I didn’t do much like what my friends would have done for me but yes I try my best to be honest with them. THis is why I think that even my childhood friends are still in touch with me and likes to talk to me.

I made friends whereever I went. yes I am talking about friends not acquaintances.I don’t say I am not choosy to make friends. I am very selective. there would be very very few who knows a lot about me. There are only 2 or 3 who are trusted blindly that I share my problems with them and ask their guidance. For last few years I have also tried to make those people as friends who have relgious inclination since it’s more fruitful for me and people around me.

Interesting thing is that my friends have played a vital role in my life. More interesting thing is that many of friends were those who I met online on Internet in past 12 years. I started my career due to my Internet friend Faisal Iqbal a.k.a James-OO7. Thanks man, I’ll always be thankful of yours that you arranged my first freelance project. My childhood friend Shahzad has always been nice with me. He is one of those who likes to share their issues without any hesitation. I very much like when people share their stuff wid me, i feel like honoured. On Internet I also found my closest of closest friend Uzma who is actually from UK but very much like me. We usually had lots of common thing in our lives besides that she’s a woman and I am not :p.Even there is only one day of difference between her and my b’day. She is one year elder than me and I often teased her by saying Baji :p

In University we were four friends. No no we were not desi version of Gang of Four.Danish,Adnan[me],Asim,Rizwan(Abbu) .We called ourself DAAR group which pronounced as Darr(fear) in Urdu which was also the name of Hindi Movie of SRK. We used to call Rizwan as Juhi Bawla since he often used to do bawla pana wali harkatin :p Like others, we also had great time at varsity, due to my friends, they never gave me chance to get closed to girls in my university. I used to say to them that “Khud bhe aam nai khaya aur mujhe bhe nai khanay diya”. Jokes apart, Danish and Rizwan were those who I often shared my personal problems. I am kind of the person who don’t share things with others and try to keep inside. I tell you this is not the good thing and do try to share with others, atleast with Allah for sure.  The most critical things should be shared with those who you think will not break your trust. Yes you can share various matters with your colleagues and managers etc since they can give you tips much better than others. Danish is in Canada now and I often talk to him online or on phone. He’s doing pretty great over there. Riz is in Karachi and me the selfish soul don’t get chance to meet him. See as i siad that i got good friends but I don’t value them ;/

When I started blogging, I had no idea that I would meet some wonderful people who would introduce me another dimension of friendship, friendship due to religion. Tariq bhai,Kashif Hafeez,Ibrahim bhai and shafiq bhai are those who became my friends due to our common interest in religion, to seek truth about God and His words. All of them are more like my brothers than friends and in presence of them I have stopped feeling the absence of an elder brother in my real life. All I woud say, Jazak Allah for your company and guidance you people often provide to me. Though I have not met none of them despite of my promise to meet Tariq bhai near his office or anywhere else.

Blogging also introduced me a great yaar of mine, Yes he my yaar, one of the best friend I came across. I am talking about my Indian friend Kumar Chetan who have been so kind and greatful that giving me as much time as he can since he knows I need it.  Kumar has been doing what Uzma  has done in past but since she’s married so don’t get much time, I don’t like to bother her much now. My friendship with my yaar is quite weird. He is one of those who came acorss due to blogging. he mailed me something about Balochistan which made me mad since it was sent by Indian. In return I mailed him about Gujrat and other things. Later it was found out that it was just a confusion at my end. He is different than other Indians. Like me Kumar also belongs to IT. There are other things which are common among us. Thus my yaar Kumar is the person I often bug whenever I see him online and I must tell you that this blog was also set up by him since I had no idea about wordpress. And offcourse I forget my other bloggin friends like Kashif Aziz and Awab Alvi, I often bug them when I see them online, specially it has always been fun to talk kashif when we are on Gtalk.

And how can I forget my lil friend Ayehsa Mehmood who I met on iRC several years ago, that litte girl is very brave who have notonly been fighting with thalassemia herself but also very active to create awarenes about it. This little kid who is just 20 years old is one of very very few people who I admire in life and wish to be like them. God bless you Ayesha.

Speaking of Internet, let me tell you that I wasted lots fo time in iRCing back in 90s because there was no such concept of Messengers,facebook and other stuff. IRC was one of the core excuse for online entertainment and getting engaged with other people. That was IRC who introduced me a friend from Dallas, Khalid. It was first time I actually met someone in real due to IRC referrence. I attended his brother’s shadi at Avari, I was supposed to meet Halai but missed him by 20 mins. I did meet Halai later when I used to work at e-Tech group. He ordered Mash ki Daal at eat-on. Can you believe it??

My 7 years of career also gave me some good friends. Khurram,Zeeshan,Danish bhai,Saaad,Umair,Fahad,Adeel are those who are more than collagues and always helped me when I got intro trouble. That’s why it’s said, a Friend in need is a friend indeed.

Mah is my friend from Delhi. She often forwards me good emails according to my mood(well she comes to know while I talk to her).  She always try her best to keep me live and cheer me up when I am down. I often get surprised how does she figure it out. She is one of 4-5 friends who are pretty closed to me.

And How can I forget my friends of chilhood who grew up with me in my mohallah. Naveed and Muzammil, I miss you guys. I don’;t know where are you these days, I have no clue at all. I wish I bring those days back when there was no tension at all and we used to play lots of cricket on roads and sitting on stairs of our homes for long hours discussin various things. I love you guys and I really miss you.

In last, I thank all of the people I mentioned or I forgot by mistake. Without you I could not understand the meaning of friendship. Many of you have been with me without demanding any thing and never complained. I know it and I do realize it. I would have done something good that I came across you people. May Allah bless all of you. Please do remember me in prayers as I need them badly.

Update: I forgot to mention few names who are equally important and played a vital role in my life like few other people.  I can’t forget Cath, who I came across this blog. I often bug her when I wish to. This blog and other my websites are due to the friendship I have with my Indian friend and brother Shaan Siddiqi, my spanish resident Belgian client cum great friend Laure. Laure is the one who was kind enough to arrange hosting ,domain and other stuff. Shaan who was also my client initially hosted my personal website and last but not least my friends in my first company, Ali Abbas,Sheraz,Shaka and Khalid bhai. It was great to spend time with you people.

And for my family friend who was having doubt about my concept of friendship, I hope it would have get cleared by now. 

God bless you!

p.s: Sorry guys for such random and baseles rant. 

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American and Chinese scientists claimed to remove memories of mice.

I don’t think we humans need any such experiment because media has already been doing same thing for decades!

And if you are a Pakistani then our governments has made us to forget every other thing except getting worried about Electicity, Flour ,Water and various other crisis.

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Ayesha is my very old lil friend I came across on IRC in 1998-1999. At that time I was not aware about her illness untill she started blogging since I had quit IRC before 9/11. Ayesha has written a very informative article for couples going to get married. Jazak Allah Ayesha for this post.

Almost every third girl gets married to a guy whom she doesn’t know, never met him, never talked to him before, guy’s family saw the girl somewhere they sent the proposal and if girl’s family didn’t find anything object-able then everything is done and final, date fixing, venue decided in short everything gets done… and they get married to each other.

Now the happily married couple is expecting a new family member, and when the new family member is born, they get to know baby is having a disease called Thalassemia, they go blank, they run to doctors, they try to do what ever they can do, in the end they get to know that both of them were Thalassemia Minor which is why their baby is Thalassemia Major.

Minor + Minor = Major
50% chances are of Thalassemia Major
25% chances are of Thalassemia Minor
25% chances are of Normal

Sadness takes place of happiness soon…. And baby starts getting used of hospital, transfusions, needles, medicines…

Now the question is, where did it all begin from? What was the mistake they made?

Till few years ago people used to ask parents of Thalassemia major that are they cousins? Did they get married in family? Yes Thalassemia genes do get inherited, but it is not only in cousin or interfamily marriage, it can happen where a guy doesn’t know the girl and get marries, they never get tested…

Asking to get the test done before marriage is like asking to do a biggest SIN!

But why can’t you think just for once for your next generation? Why don’t you see the bigger picture?

When we going to stop our narrow-mindedness?

Few months ago there was comment on my blog which was:
No Test, No Nikkah!

I guess government should pass a bill about this issue!, there are many countries who have already started this… why can’t we? And when we will???

We all know our government so why don’t we start something on our own too?

What you can do as an individual?
* You can get yourself and your partner tested before marriage
* Ask your friends to do the same
* If someone you know who is getting married ask them if they have gone for the test?
* Spread this information around your family, friends, colleagues, neighbors and everywhere… TO SAVE THE NEXT GENERATION!

The test is called HB electrophoresis and it is not much expensive…

So when you going to get yourself tested?

If you have any comment/advice/suggestion/questions/queries you can drop me a comment and I will reply ASAP!

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Salman of Junoon Group is pissed of that people say islam is a peaceful religion while Salman and his friend considers Islam is a sexy religion since it talks about Sex. Listen yourself:

He didn’t say Islam “sexy” in context of “cool” religion, it was due to orders by Allah about avoiding illegal and legal sex issues.

This is not surprising for me since he’s another modernist and liberal Muslim! what else can we expect from him? Same Salman Ahmad playing guitar on verse of Quran:

Same guy made a documentary Rock Star and Mullah in which he tried to ridicule Islam by imposing his own version of Islam. Kashif Hafeez Siddiqi write an awesome series of articles about that documentary.

Part-1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4

Part 5

I am glad that the guy is still busy to strike axe on his toes. Is he harming Islam? NO. Is he screwing himself? Definitely Yes!

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