Eid and Our Ladies-A tribute
Our virtual family dentist Teeth Maestro shared his pain on Karachi Metroblog website and I wouldn’t disagree with him( but let’s not underestimate and ignore the efforts our sisters, mothers, bhabis and wives make to keep whole everything in harmony.
In Ramadan we men getup for Sehri merely 30 mins before the Azaan but these ladies getup at least an hour or more before us to open the kitchen, clean it and then prepare Sehri dishes. In most families ladies prepare fresh meal on time like Roti, Paratha etc because men of those families want to eat FRESH stuff only. Most of men just sit on table eat stuff and just get up and then again same ladies picks used pots and other stuff and clean the table. Ladies have to pray Fajr on time too. They also have to make breakfast for kids and for those who don’t keep fast in Ramadan. We men just pray and then get back to bed for a nap.
In Evening we come back to home from office, take shower and sleep. Same ladies would then be busy in making Iftar dishes.
Few days before Eid, these ladies have to go out for buying stuff for the decoration of home. On chand raat most of us go to sleep for early Eid prayers but these ladies often don’t go for sleep till late night and keep themselves busy to decorate home ,making Eid dishes etc. On eid day they manage to getup early in the morning so that they can prepare breakfast for us.
Most of us don’t realize their efforts. Our ladies are unsung heroes [or heroines] (. They keep our dignity high in front of relatives by making good foods in Ramadan or in Iftar so If they spend few hours out to home for shopping then it shouldn’t bother us. Yes you can ask them to keep the things within budget but let them enjoy! They don’t have any other tafreeh for eid. It is not an issue if they wear Henna on hands and prepare some good dresses for themselves. You should realize that still you re praised by others for all such efforts not those ladies.
So I would like to take advantage of my blog to thank all such ladies around the world. Thank you very much. We men can’t even pay 1% tribute of your efforts which you do for sake of us. In your absence we either become wild beast or stop living properly. Don’t give a damn if someone doesn’t appreciate you. At least I am appreciating all of your efforts. You are nucleus of a family and without you we could suffer a big disaster. God bless you and may give you enough strength to keep our houses as homes-Ameen.
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October 24th, 2006 at 3:26 pm
Good post mashallah. Btw, I was wondering if you would be interested in writing for Chowrangi.com
October 24th, 2006 at 10:50 pm
kashif thanks for liking. I do visit your website and it contains quality and sensible content.
I write for myself and in very poor manner thus I don’t consider my writings eligible for some others website. In past I refused Adil Najam for the same reason. Thanks for your kind offer and tell me that are you IN karachi or living abroad?
October 25th, 2006 at 1:08 am
Wonderful Post … and yah so so true … every man should read it thrice atleast :”>
[[Are you sure you wrote it yourself … or some of ur sis or some girl stole hacked your blog ]] Just kiddin
Eid Mubarik!!!
October 25th, 2006 at 2:44 am
Our virtual family dentist Teeth Maestro shared his pain
Had me ROTFL
October 26th, 2006 at 12:09 am
Asma abhi tumhey boht dunya dekhni hey, boht se logoun se milna hay, boht sa zindagi ka tajarba chahye tumhe takay tum logoun ko samjh sako *grin*
October 26th, 2006 at 10:08 am
best
October 26th, 2006 at 10:08 am
best
October 26th, 2006 at 10:12 am
best
October 26th, 2006 at 3:18 pm
:$
not funny :/
October 26th, 2006 at 5:59 pm
asma who was being funny with you?
October 12th, 2007 at 8:10 pm
[…] On a related note, as I requested/advised all Muslim men on earth, do pay attention what I’m expecting from all of you. Do give them credit to make you a human being and keeping your name high. […]
October 13th, 2007 at 11:50 am
Adnan
that was a good post
However, my question is that why can’t men share the house-work and undo this culture - well at least in Ramzan..
October 13th, 2007 at 7:08 pm
@Raza, Thanks.
my question is that why can’t men share the house-work and undo this culture
Do you?
October 13th, 2007 at 8:30 pm
Ah, the poor me, I used to prepare Sehri and Iftari in Ramadan, and then also it was my onus to manage TPS, and what all you guys did? Just read it.
Btw, Adnan, Kashif’s offer is fantastic. In my humble opinion, Chowrangi.com is one of the top blogs right now in Pakistan. May be the top most.
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October 14th, 2007 at 4:56 am
It’s a great post. Although there are families where the efforts of women are appreciated, but by and large they do remain the unsung heroines
October 15th, 2007 at 12:51 pm
Appreciation for women is a good thing, which I by being a woman my self appreciate as well, but facts do need to be recognised as facts all the same. I can relate to what Dr. Awab said in his shoe-post, my family and I hate shopping together for those very reasons (in fact I pretty much hate shopping altogether for that very reason). Women DO fuss a lot in shopping. That’s not a generalization or stereotype, occasionally, even I’ll do it. Its just something in our genes. That is not to say men wouldn’t do it (but) they’ll do it occasionally, and even then the magnitude of the fuss will be far less.
Having said that, of course I agree with Adnan in his central idea that woman as a large remain under appreciated. The every day hard yards we do are often taken for granted. For that reason alone, it was nice to read this post.